It has been a long time since I have posted in this blog, and for that I apologise. I have never been good at committing to a thing, to doing it day in and day out. I will get passionate about something and do it for a week or two and then, when the week is out, I have moved on to a new toy and the old passion has become a chore.
But I’m going to try to list a few thoughts about the various readings we’ve done.
Anne Sexton’s “Resume 1965” puts me in mind of Sherlock Holmes’ quote in the first episode of the recent BBC series Sherlock: “I play the violin when I’m thinking. Sometimes I don’t talk for hours on end. would that bother you? Potential flatmates should know the worst about each other.” Perhaps Anne Sexton is operating under that principle–if you know the worst about me and still hire me, then perhaps we are a good match as employer and employee.
Natalia Ginsburg’s piece makes me sad. Perhaps she describes all their differences and arguments with a tone of fondness, but I kept thinking that I couldn’t see myself with someone like that, someone who would make fun of me for the things that I am not able to do or for the way I do things. I can’t tell if she truly loves him or if she is resigned to life with him. Perhaps it’s more complicated than that, after so many years together. I want someone who would cherish our differences and it seems that Ginsburg does cherish the differences between herself and her husband but the way she describes it, it doesn’t seem that he reciprocates. Of course this essay is not the whole picture. I’m certain I am being too hard on him. It just rubs me the wrong way somehow.
When it comes to Andre Dubus’ “Digging”, I am struck by the poignancy of it. I find myself just this painfully shy with my grandparents. I don’t know how to talk to them or to listen to them. I found it interesting that Dubus made certain to separate out his fear of his father from his shyness with his father. I think that’s important… they are quite different things and when one is not caused by the other, you must deal with them separately. The imagery, the physical descriptions in the essay, were so clear and so vibrant and vivid that I felt that I was there with him under that burning sun, getting heat stroke (though he never uses the word), feeling my arms getting weaker with every moment. I’m glad that Dubus and his father came to an understanding with each other, though it took years. I think it has to take years for children to understand their parents and vice versa. Only when you’re all adults can you talk on an equal footing. This is a little rambly. I think I’ll stop now.